When a person having borderline personality disorder also known as BPD gets into a relationship, they get intensely involved with the partner , that too very quickly.
They seem to be very passionate and attracted to their partners. When one gets deeply into you , who would not like that ?
But then after a few weeks or a month , BPD becomes over possessive and insecure. They get attached quickly and get disappointed quickly. For them life can only be either black or white.Either a person is an idol for them or they are too bad ! They will start by quoting, “she is the best!” , “Oh I love this girl as crazy ! “ but if a small thing happens between them, they get deeply disturbed and sometimes become rageful too. So now the statement they pass is , “Oh I so hate her, she is so bad ….”
It’s very hard for people in love with a BPD to focus on other things as their relationship demands 100% attention and dependency.
It’s very hard for people in love with a BPD to focus on other things as their relationship demands 100% attention and dependency.
BPD = Passionate & Happy 🔜 Rageful & Disappointed
Sometimes due to the fear of abandonment, BPD tries to disown their partners as they don’t want to get rejected.Having a relationship with a BPD is a tough challenge. The advice that I would give to a person who is in a relationship with a BPD is :
start by giving reassurance and make them Understand that the person needs some therapy before it gets late.
If things are not working then the partner should get out of the relationship before things go out of hands.
There is hope for the Borderline to get better after therapy & proper after care and have successful relationships.DBT ( Dialectical Behavior Therapy) has a success rate in treating BPD, through DBT we make them understand that life is not only black or white , there are other shades of grey too .